Having attained the height of 5’9” by my 14th birthday, wearing large things—large prints, purses, and jewelry—always intimidated me. I figured that something on my body should be small.

How wrong I was. In the mid 2000’s, I first heard this statement:

Small jewelry makes small people look smaller and big people look bigger.

Huh. Who knew?

But I figured, what the heck? Why not give it a try? So I began buying larger pendants, larger earrings…even larger purses.

When I began presenting a line of high fashion jewelry to women, I continued to share this mantra, urging them to go up a size. I used these fabulous one-liners:

A large pendant takes 10 pounds off your hips.

Wear earrings a quarter size or larger. It will keep people looking at your eyes, not your thighs.

All very true. But, being 5’10” and a lean 150 pounds, I felt a little silly making these statements.

Then I met my husband, ate his cooking for a year, purchased a wardrobe the next size up, and proceeded to get pregnant. Now I needed those tricks. Throughout my pregnancy, I kept the bling loud and strong. And the compliments flew my way. “You’re seven months pregnant? You look amazing!”

Thank you. Thank you very much. I’ll take it.

But for you, my dear friends, I freely admit—it was all an optical illusion.

Give it a try. Go grab a large pendant, or—and this is the year to do it—a statement bib-style necklace. The chunkier the better, because if you have any chunk, it’s going to disappear. I tell you, jewelry can be magic!